I am a thin, Harlem residing, Detroit born, master’s degree-having, 34-year old, divorced Black woman whose passport is on pimpin.When friends say that I’m the “type” White guys like, they are mostly referring to my small frame, education and breadth of travel. There is nothing about me that makes me a “safe” Black chick for White guys to holler at.The other troubling statement I get from my Black girlfriends regarding dating White dudes is “You’re the type of Black girl White guys like. If there is one thing I know about heterosexual men, it is that regardless of their physical preferences, at the end of the day they just like women.I’ve seen White guys with a wide variety of Black women.You should never date someone of a certain race because you feel exhausted by the antics of men of another race. Men in my family, my circle of friends and past loves attest to that.It’s not fair to the Black woman, the White dude or Black men. If you’re running into Black dudes who are not worth a quarter, their behavior is not some genetic issue related to their ethnic background, they just aren’t the guys for you, for any number of other reasons.The reality is that I have a very active social life in a diverse city and I often find myself in rooms filled with men of various racial, ethnic and nationality backgrounds. Most of my girlfriends who talk about being sick of Black guys, are not being completely serious. There’s nothing wrong with Black women sticking to Black men or vice versa.They aren’t about to abandon Black men (I haven’t either). That said, interracial relationships aren’t for everybody and that’s fine. Just be clear with who you are and why you want who you want.
She hid her broken spirits well, and they continued walking around the city, had another drink and even stopped to visit a psychic.
(She predicted they'd be hitting a "rough patch soon." Um, yea! Let's fast-forward to the present: He did go on the plane to Australia, she didn't follow him and even though their relationship has boiled down to sending Facebook messages back and forth across the planet, her attitude is this: "No, this isn't the kind of story that ends in two people spending their lives together, but that's OK.